How to Talk to Your Administrator About Mental Health
Advocating for your mental health at work can feel daunting—especially in a school setting where the culture often rewards self-sacrifice. But your well-being isn't a luxury; it's foundational to your ability to show up for your students.
Why It Feels So Hard to Ask for Help
In many school environments, stress is normalized—and even celebrated. You're praised for staying late, covering for others, and always putting students first. While this dedication is admirable, it can also create a culture where asking for help feels like failure.
That guilt? It's not a personal flaw—it's a reflection of a system that hasn’t made space for your humanity. But mental health isn't optional, and neither is your right to take care of yourself.
How to Prepare for the Conversation
Before you meet with your administrator, take time to reflect on what you need. Are you asking for schedule flexibility, more adult support in the classroom, or simply more understanding about your boundaries?
Here’s how to frame the conversation:
Start with clarity. Know what you’re asking for and why it matters.
Keep it professional but personal. You don’t have to overshare to make your needs valid.
Anticipate concerns. Be ready to reassure your admin that your request is about sustaining your work—not avoiding it.
Sample Script
“Hi [Administrator’s Name], I wanted to talk about something important that’s impacting my ability to be fully present at work and I’m working on taking care of myself more intentionally. One of the ways I’m doing that is by [insert request—e.g., being intentional about my work-life balance]. I’d love to explore how we can make this work with my schedule.”
What If You Feel Guilty?
That’s normal—and it doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. Guilt often shows up when we’re disrupting an unhelpful pattern. Remind yourself: You deserve support, just like your students do.
Talking about mental health at work is brave. It’s also necessary.
You Don’t Have to Do It Alone
At Teacher Talk, we offer individual and group therapy designed for educators—because we understand the realities of school life. If you're struggling to advocate for your needs, therapy can help you build the tools and confidence to speak up.
Ready to take the first step? Explore our therapy options for teachers.
